This is really tricky because I understand that you don’t want to step on any toes and give her unwanted attention (especially if she isn’t bulimic and people are believing that she is), but at the same time, you care about her and if there is a problem, you would want her to get help.
I think the best solution is to talk to the coach you trust the most and who you find to be the most compassionate and understanding in private. Explain to him or her why you have cause to believe that your teammate might be struggling with an eating disorder, and they can take it from there. As a coach myself, I have not run into problems like that yet, but I have run into other problems where we (coaches) are concerned about one of the kids. From there we usually have a talk with the parents and tell them what we noticed (for me, it was some obvious neurological problems, not an eating disorder). If one of my kids approached me saying that they thought their teammate had an ED, I would probably observe the gymnast in question for a few days to see if I noticed anything before I talked with the parents. This way, it’s pretty “anonymous” and your teammate won’t be upset at you in particular for saying something. I also probably wouldn’t confront the gymnast about it myself as the coach because I think that would put her instantly on the defense and I guarantee that she would not open up to me anyway.
I had a teammate who had some off and on issues that probably should have been diagnosed as bulimia but never were, and I remember how defensive she got when we would tell her we were concerned about her. So that’s why I think it’s best to kind of let the dialogue happen through the adults. I definitely think you should do it soon though because negative body image issues have a habit of spreading through a gym. Coaches know this and know that it’s best to address and isolate the issue before it permeates the gym.
Best of luck, and I hope that if your friend is suffering, that she will be able to get the help that she needs.
Part 1 of my series of favorite NCAA routines.
Here are 5 of my favorite vaults, and not a single one of them is a yurchenko ;]
I look like a reanimated corpse but my hair looks pretty I guess
sobbing at the end of Titanic as usual
The new Sith Lord
RYAN WHEN DID YOU TAKE THIS PICTURE OF WILBUR
why even follow someone if you’re just going to send them mean messages???